How I could never
make her happy!
Oct 18, 2011:
She: I was never happy because of you!
In fact, whatever happiness was transpired
because of you was always short-lived!
Me: Good to
know the real facts. :|
She:
Bye forever. I hate you!
******
signed out of the chat.
Indeed, that was the last time I ever heard
from her. It's funny the way some things in life control our emotions and we have
no way but to look at them dragging us along with them. Looking back, I
wonder if all the time spent together meant anything to her! What if she never
loved me? What if there was someone else whom she always loved more than me?
Things; when you try to look in your perspective always end up making u the
king and you start correlating “facts” which mostly are not true and as one of
my close friend had once said to me “Do not ever try to think what the other
person is thinking; you’ll be wrong 99.5% of the times”.
Do I regret the time ever spent with her?
No; the late night talks, the early morning calls even before the rooster could
crow early in the morning, the lengthy chats and what not; all have been
memorable in their own way and are still cherished in my not so intelligent brain.
The question to ask is whether she regrets it or not? The conversation above
might suggest that she does regret every minute spent with me and as well might
have been with someone else. But I cannot be the judge of it as I’ll be looking
at my point of view and not hers. This is something which only she can answer.
As I said earlier I cannot answer for her but the least I can do is try to be
in her shoes and try to understand the path she is trying to walk.
I sometimes wonder if the world would be a better place to live if each one of us took that little time of our so called busy schedule and try stepping in others shoes when it matters the most.
You can almost taste the bitterness you must have felt. It's a talent to be able to make readers feel what you feel.
ReplyDeleteAt one point you agree with your friend who says one can only judge what the other person is thinking with only 0.5 % accuracy while at the other end you urging to step into other's shoes; is it really worth the effort if you already know that your chances of success are minimal?
ReplyDelete@Piyush: I don't think there is any bitterness involved, for I'd written that I cherish the memories :). A first(& quick) glance at the blog certainly does give that aura of bitterness though :P
ReplyDelete@Vishu: I believe that it at least makes a difference when compared to making assumptions and messing up the situation further. Instead I would love to take that risk of viewing it from the unknown perspective and who knows, one might be lucky :)
Well....for the blog... nice start. And I disagree with Piyush. There was no bitterness, not from Naresh's side at least. From her side, definitely.
ReplyDeleteWhich brings us to perspective. I have always maintained that perspective is not just one's situation but also one's personality. If I am someone who gets angry very quickly, and I was in a situation where my lid just blew off... you cannot, unless you know me really well, see my perspective..... for the simple reason that you might be a very calm person. You might feel, "What was there to get so angry"?
Stepping in others' shoes is of use only when you know the shoe size..... ;)
@Abhas: I do agree that one needs to know the partner's domain well before going into it and viewing from their standpoint; but considering the fact that you'd known the person very well should just be enough right? And I feel that you can always get off by just feebly viewing from their perspective without much fuss :P
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